Don't you want to be settled? I am asked this often.
What is 'settled'?
Here's what I think it is. It's that point in life when one's life path is fixed, rather, believed to be fixed and has crossed a point of no return.
What does that mean practically? For Indians, it's invariably marriage and building a family. Is marriage a point of no return? 10 years ago, I would have answered yes, for people actually stood by their marriages, in the strangest circumstances. This has changed though, in the recent years, and marriage is no longer viewed with finality as it used to be.
So then, what is 'settled'?
Could it be a steady income, a pursuit of a good career? Again I'm not so sure. Today, more so than the yesteryears, we have the freedom of starting afresh, or floating from one pursuit to the next.
Again, what is 'settled'?
Could it be the pursuit of a repetitive routine, one that balances duty and expectations, however mundane it is? Maybe. Maybe not.
Or could 'settled' simply be that realisation one has of who she is, who she's going to be for the rest of her life? Could it simply be the realisation of her identity and her powers?
I think 'settled' is indeed that simple.
For, once you have found your identity, there indeed is no turning back.
What is 'settled'?
Here's what I think it is. It's that point in life when one's life path is fixed, rather, believed to be fixed and has crossed a point of no return.
What does that mean practically? For Indians, it's invariably marriage and building a family. Is marriage a point of no return? 10 years ago, I would have answered yes, for people actually stood by their marriages, in the strangest circumstances. This has changed though, in the recent years, and marriage is no longer viewed with finality as it used to be.
So then, what is 'settled'?
Could it be a steady income, a pursuit of a good career? Again I'm not so sure. Today, more so than the yesteryears, we have the freedom of starting afresh, or floating from one pursuit to the next.
Again, what is 'settled'?
Could it be the pursuit of a repetitive routine, one that balances duty and expectations, however mundane it is? Maybe. Maybe not.
Or could 'settled' simply be that realisation one has of who she is, who she's going to be for the rest of her life? Could it simply be the realisation of her identity and her powers?
I think 'settled' is indeed that simple.
For, once you have found your identity, there indeed is no turning back.
Strive Vs Settle
ReplyDeleteThis is the battle we all fight.
Another choice we make every day.
DeleteYou cannot settle in life.we have to be moving .
ReplyDeleteI hear you.
DeleteYou should draw distinction between being professionaly settled and personally settled. Just because views have changed does not mean the reality had changed.
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